Did you think that squirting was just for porn stars and a lucky few “regular” women? I’m here to tell you any woman can squirt at any time.
Squirting isn’t so much a science as it’s an art. While the triggers can vary from woman to woman, there are some common denominators. In this guide, I, Laura Rose Halliday from the School of Squirt will introduce squirting. I’ll then outline the techniques and sex positions you can use to bring yourself, or your partner, to squirt. Let’s get started!
What is Squirting?
Squirting is the forceful ejection of a colorless, odorless liquid from the urethra during or around climax.
Squirting Versus Female Ejaculation
While the two are often used interchangeably, they’re two different functions. So what’s the difference?
Firstly, squirting fluids and female ejaculation have different contents.
An analysis of squirting fluids found that it contains prostate plasma, also known as Prostate-Specific Antigen (PSA). This is the same plasma found in the male ejaculatory fluid.
The difference in contents leads to the second point… where the fluids come from.
Due to the levels of PSA found in squirting fluids, this signals to researchers that the Skene’s glands are involved. This doesn’t seem to be the case with female ejaculation which contains little to no PSA.
So why does squirting fluid come out of the urethra?
The Skene’s glands are two glands located on either side of the urethra. During squirting, it is believed the fluids are pushed from the glands through the bladder and out of the urethra. This is why squirting fluid contains small traces of uric acid (found in urine).
Who Can Squirt?
It’s my mission to teach every woman who wants to squirt how to do so. That’s because, in theory, every woman is capable.
While it may be possible for there to be physical limitations to squirting, I have yet to come across them. Instead, the issue for the women I work with is largely psychological. More specifically, her inhibitions get in the way and she is unable to become fully comfortable with it.
How to Squirt
Now that you know what squirting is and that every woman can do it, here’s how.
1. Start by Yourself
Squirting requires that you’re comfortable with your body and its abilities. What better way to get comfortable than to explore and play with yourself?
Starting by yourself means you have lower inhibitions and less embarrassment than if you were with a partner. This is especially true if you feel that female pleasure and bodily functions are something to be ashamed of. The truth is that most women are taught to believe this from a young age, but it’s up to us to reverse that thinking.
The best places to focus if you’re trying to squirt by yourself are the clitoris and the g-spot. Start with the clitoris. Play with yourself until you’re close to climax and then pull back. Do that a few times until you’re ready to explore. This is known as edging.
Now begin on the g-spot. Insert your fingers into your vagina and push gently upwards. You’ll feel a rubbery area of the vaginal wall that feels different from the surrounding tissue — that’s the g-spot. Apply pressure to this spot and then return to the clitoris with the other hand. Stimulate both simultaneously until you orgasm.
You may squirt the first time, or it may take some experimentation with g-spot pressure, positions, etc.
2. Get Into the Right Mindset
A common problem for women is the inability to turn off their thoughts and just enjoy themselves. They continue to think about their workday, the argument they had with their sister, the endless list of to-dos, etc. It’s crucial that you turn off those thoughts and shut out any distractions. This requires a mindset shift, and it can take a while to learn to do it naturally.
In the meantime, I recommend you try some grounding breathing exercises. These will help you to flush out all worries while making you more aware of your surroundings. An easy technique is to breathe in for a count of five, hold your breath for a count of five, and breathe out for a count of five. Repeat until you feel more relaxed and able to focus on the now.
The right mindset also means focusing on the journey and not the destination. While the goal is to squirt eventually, if you don’t squirt during the first few sessions, that’s fine. You and your partner need to remove the pressure from the situation for a particularly enjoyable time.
3. Get Plenty Aroused
The more aroused you are, the lower your inhibitions and fears. This increases the likelihood of orgasm and squirting.
So how do you get aroused? Lots and lots of foreplay!
There are plenty of foreplay options, and you and your partner should explore them to get an idea of what you like. Just a few ideas include:
- Dirty text messages
- Pillow talk
- Sexy pictures and videos
- Dirty notes
- Sensual massage
- Making out
- Heavy petting
The goal is to enjoy the journey. Explore your partner’s body and let them return the favor. The more turned on you are, the more fun you’ll both have. This includes climaxing and squirting.
4. Focus on the Clitoris and G-Spot
When it comes to squirting, you want to focus on the most sensitive parts of your anatomy. In this case, that’s the clitoris and g-spot.
While there’s no perfect formula for this, I suggest you start with the clitoris and then move onto the g-spot for the big finish. The two are often thought of as different structures, but the g-spot is actually the internal back end of the clitoris.
To stimulate the g-spot for squirting requires pressure as opposed to friction (i.e. rubbing). How do you even find the g-spot? It’s actually quite easy! Insert your fingers into the opening of your (or your partner’s) vagina. Lightly press upwards on the front wall of the vagina (towards the stomach). Anywhere from 1 inch to 3 inches in, you’ll find the texture of the vaginal wall changes to a firmer, rubbery texture. This is the g-spot.
The amount of pressure and patterns will depend on what your partner likes. Some women prefer predictable tapping movements while others prefer to be kept on their toes. You’ll learn more about your (or your partner’s) preferences as you spend more time doing it.
5. Try Sex Toys
Whether alone or with a partner, sex toys can lighten the load and make it easier to enjoy your time.
For squirting, I would recommend a clitoral vibrator or a g-spot stimulator. These toys target highly-sensitive areas which are likely to bring you to a more intense climax. This increases the odds of squirting, especially if pressure is applied to the g-spot during orgasm.
So how should you use sex toys if you’re with a partner? There are a few ways to go about it.
If your partner is penetrating you, then a clitoral vibrator or stimulator is easy to apply. When combined with g-spot pressure, this can result in an explosive orgasm.
If your partner is not penetrating you, you can use the g-spot stimulator to apply increasing pressure to the area. Your partner can focus on your clitoris or even anus if you’re into butt play. The varying pressure combined with intense clitoral sensations can similarly lead to climax.
6. Use High-Quality Lube
Even when you’re highly aroused, a high-quality lube can make a huge difference in your experience. After all, friction of any kind can really dampen the mood.
There are different types of lubricants, including:
- Water-based. The most popular type, water-based lubricants are great for anyone with sensitive skin. They are safe to use with latex condoms and sex toys. They may require reapplication more frequently than silicone-based.
- Silicone-based. These lubricants are made to last longer than water-based lubricants. They are usually safe with condoms, though they may damage silicone sex toys.
- Oil-based. These include mineral oil, baby oil, and petroleum jelly. While they’re easy to access, they are not safe to use with latex condoms or sex toys as they can break down the materials over time.
The best lubricants are those you can use safely (i.e. they don’t interfere with barrier protection, they don’t irritate your skin).
7. Let Go of Your Inhibitions
Think of the first time you climaxed with a partner. It required a certain level of trust and comfortability. The same can be said for squirting, though that level of trust and comfortability is usually higher.
For women who aren’t accustomed to squirting, it can seem messy and shameful. After all, it’s bodily fluids forcefully ejected from your urethra. However, you have to remember that 1) it’s natural, and 2) most men are turned on by squirting.
So even more than the different techniques above, letting go of your inhibitions and feeling free are more important when it comes to squirting.
So how can you let go of your inhibitions?
First, talk with your partner. Let them know how you feel and see how they respond. If they’re gung-ho about you squirting, this can go a long way in decreasing your insecurities.
Second, work on feeling more comfortable with your body’s functions. There’s nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to any natural function, including squirting. It can take a while to overcome decades of shame, but comfortability in this can only come from within.
Best Sex Positions for Squirting
There are dozens of sex positions that you and your partner can experiment with. However, some positions are better for squirting than others. For ample clitoral and g-spot stimulation, the three positions below are a great place to start.
1. Doggy Style
If you want both easy access to your clitoris and g-spot stimulation, then the doggy-style position is ideal.
Technique:
Kneel on your hands and knees while he kneels between your legs and enters you from behind. He can hold up your hips while he thrusts into you.
Variations:
Instead of kneeling, have your partner stand with his feet on the outside of your knees and crouch down to enter you. This requires some knee and hip strength, but your partner can steady himself by holding onto your hips or reaching down and putting his hands on the bed.
2. Missionary
The missionary position is perfect if you want to use a clitoral vibrator during sex as it’s easy for you to maneuver.
Technique:
Lie flat on your back with your knees shoulder-width apart. Have your partner kneel in between your knees. Place your knees around his hips as he enters you.
Variations:
For deeper penetration, place your knees on his shoulders. This will allow him to go deeper and thrust harder.
3. Reverse Cowgirl
The reverse cowgirl is great for women as it’s easy to move into and easy to get right. The control that you have in this position also enables you to put pressure on your g-spot which is crucial for squirting.
Technique:
Have your partner lie down on his back. Facing away from him, place your feet on either side of his legs and crouch at the knees. Once comfortable, ease onto his disk.
Variations:
To add some variety to this position, you can stay still while letting your partner do the thrusting from below. This allows you to more easily stimulate your clitoris while being penetrated.
Advanced Tip: Strengthen Your Kegel Muscles
Kegel muscles, also known as pelvic floor or PC muscles, are the muscles that support your bladder and rectum. They are responsible for helping you to maintain continence and control urine flow.
Kegel muscles also have a role to play in pleasure and orgasm.
The stronger the kegel muscles, the stronger your orgasms are likely to be. It can also help you to squirt more forcefully.
Kegel exercises can easily be incorporated into your day. How do you know your kegel muscles are engaged? Flex the pelvic floor like you would if you were stopping your urine flow midstream. This is what it feels like when the floor muscles are engaged.
Here’s one basic exercise you can begin now:
Lift the pelvic floor muscles and hold them for three seconds. Release the muscles and relax for three seconds. Continue this pattern ten times.
Conclusion
If you never thought you or your partner could squirt, think again. While squirting comes more easily to some women than others, any woman who wants to can squirt during climax.
It may take some time for you or your partner to get comfortable with the idea of squirting. That’s okay. You and your partner should enjoy the journey even if it takes a long, winding road to get to the destination.
