Cunnilingus is known as one of the most complicated and most intimidating sexual acts there are.
Maybe because there is much variation in what ‘’works’’ and there is no right set of moves that will make them orgasm.
Why?
Everyone is individual and everyone has different preferences and likes. Every vagina is different. Some like this, some like that, some like more things at the same time. Well, you got the picture.
How to do down on someone is a skill you’ll want to master, because one might say that giving oral sex is the best way to sexually please women and a key to a happy relationship.
Hopefully, we did not scare you already. Performing cunnilingus is tricky, but these tips are going to send you in the right direction, and eventually, you'll be able to give the intense orgasm they deserve.
Just relax, do your best, and know communication is key.
So...
HOW TO PERFORM CUNNILINGUS
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Talk
Talk, talk, talk, and communicate. The conversation will help in so many ways and build up your relationship.
There is nothing wrong with asking: Do you like that? Did you like that more? Am I going too fast? What do you like?
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Set the tempo
You’ll want to start light and slow and gradually build speed and pressure.
And take your time, the average woman takes 15 to 40 minutes to have an orgasm.
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Think about tongue movements
With the tongue movements, I’d say experimenting is the key.
Go up and down, circles, counterclockwise circles, side to side, pulsating in one place, wrap your mouth around the clit and suck.
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Pay attention to the body language
This one is very simple. If they like what you are doing, you’ll know it.
Pay attention to her breathing pattern and hand and hip movement.
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Eye contact
Eye contact is incredibly sexy and very intimate so be sure to look up every now and then.
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Use your tongue, lips, and fingers
Mix things up. Like inserting a finger or two, while you lick them. Use your lips to go over the clitoral hood or maybe throw in some nipple stimulation with your fingers.
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Don’t forget about the labia
There are many nerve endings in inner and outer labia, so make sure you don’t skip it.
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A toy is (most likely) welcome.
Before you do introduce a sex toy, ask if that’s okay.
Try playing with butt plugs, vibrators, or dildos.
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Don’t stop.
Never stop when they start coming unless they specifically told you to. They will love you for it.
Think of these tips more like guidelines than a set of strict rules. You should always communicate with your partner and experiment with what they like.
Written by Luka of Spices of Lust
